Today’s blog post is dedicated to a topic I feel very strongly about: Education. It is currently one of my most requested subjects (which surprises me since this is a fashion blog), so I’m going to take a lot of time to write my very comprehensive viewpoint on it.
In my opinion, education is one of the most important tools for success in life. I’m not saying you have to be educated to be successful, I’m only saying it will exponentially increase your chances.
In my family, college wasn’t an option, it was required. Graduate school on the other hand was an option that I chose to exercise. Even though I am not currently using my graduate degree (I have a law degree, and I am a licensed attorney in the state of California), I do not regret my decision to obtain it one bit.
For college, I attended The University of Texas at Austin. More particularly, the Red McCombs school of Business. I grew up in Houston (in quite a strict household, no boys or dating allowed!!), so Austin was a very fun change for me. Although college was liberating and a time for me to experience new things, I still took it very seriously and made sure to always have excellent grades.
It’s difficult to balance work and play while in college because there are so many fun things to do. Between parties, hanging out with friends, dating, and discovering yourself, it’s hard to find time for class lol. Many of you asked how I stayed motivated through it all, well this is how.
Before a big exam was approaching, I would mentally prepare. I would sit down and look at myself in the mirror, or look at all my books. I would tell myself that school is my career right now, I am paying for it rather than getting paid for it, therefore I need to kick ass, study hard, and take it seriously.
To study, I always went to the library or locked myself in my room. The library worked best for me because there are zero distractions. You can’t get up to go to the fridge every five minutes, you can’t watch tv or listen to the radio, you can’t answer your phone, all you can do is shut the fuck up and study.
Once I started studying, I pretty much wanted to do anything but study lol. Even cleaning the toilets suddenly didn’t sound so bad. When I hit these rock bottom moments of exhaustion or frustration, I would tell myself “Lilly, how pathetic are you in that you: can stay up until 5am with your girl-friends gossiping…party until the sun comes up in the South of France…stay on the phone with your boyfriend until 3am…etc etc” BUT you can’t sit here and allot the same kind of time and late hours to study? You could do it then, but you can’t do it now to educate and better yourself?
After I put it in perspective, I would be embarrassed with myself knowing I stayed up late and devoted so much time to meaningless things, yet I am now internally complaining and wanting to quit studying. This would kick me back into study mode and I would get the job done.
While in my 3rd year of college, I decided I wanted to further my formal education (aka I was not ready to enter the real World and get a job! lol), so I began to consider graduate school. Medical, dental, and law school. I decided to attend the latter as law always interested me and blood and guts did not.
For law school, I knew I wanted to come to Los Angeles as it had always been a dream of mine to live in southern California. I attended Loyola Law School where I graduated top of my class, Cum Laude/Order of the Coif.
Law school was NOT easy. In college, it’s easy to balance social life and school life. In fact, I would say social life is 75% of your time, and class/study is a meager 25% of your time (for me anyway, school comes easy for me). Law school on the other hand has a ratio more like 99% class/studying, 1% social life.
Law school is no joke guys. I would wake up, go to class, come home, study, do work for the next day of class, sleep, repeat. I lost contact with 99% of my friends and family, and I truly had no life. The weekends were usually spent running all my errands, studying, and perhaps I would squeeze in a night out or two.
On multiple occasions, I spent the night in the library. Sleeping on the floor by my desk, or just sleeping on my desk. I cried all the time. I was super stressed out. I hated my life. I second guessed why I was there every other day. But, I stuck with it, and I devoted myself to it. In the grand scheme of things, 3 years of your life (which is how long law school is) is nothing. Before you know it, you’re done, and you’ve accomplished something really incredible. You’ve accomplished what most people in the World never will, and that is empowering.
I may have lost a few years in the looks department (due to gaining wrinkles from stress!), but the self esteem, knowledge and confidence inside of me I gained was worth it all.
If you take the time to get your degree, you will have a sense of accomplishment that no one can ever take away from you. Even though you may not “learn” anything in college, you are using your brain in a powerful and meaningful way every-single-day that you’re there. Reading. Writing. Thinking. Solving problems. These things do make you smarter. Your brain is like any other mechanism in your body, the more you use it, the stronger it gets.
People complain that they are poor spellers, well spelling is actually a learned trait from reading. Reading is 90% of what you do in school. People complain that they are horrible writers. Sentence structure and writing technique is a learned trait from practice. Writing papers and essays are a large part of what you do in school.
My point is, although you may feel like the art history class you are required to take is pointless and you’re not learning anything, you actually are. You’re learning to improve basic skill sets that will benefit you for the rest of your life.
To sum all this up, if you have the opportunity to go to college or graduate school- take it. Don’t worry, you will still be “young” when you’re done, you’ll still be “hot” when you’re done, and you can still have plenty of “fun” when you’re done.
With that said, if you don’t have the opportunity to attend school, that doesn’t make you dumber than the rest of us, or any less valuable, it only means you have to work a little harder on your own to maintain your skills set and succeed- which is completely do-able. In fact, some of the most successful people in the World are college drop outs. It just goes to show you if you work hard, you can accomplish anything.
For me, education is never a waste of anyone’s time and it is something I am proud to of accomplished in my life. How hot is it to be not only one of the most fashionable people in the room, but also the most educated. It’s powerful. I have a doctorate degree, bitch! Go ahead, call me Dr. Ghalichi.
If you’re in any kind of school, don’t give up. It will be over before you know it :)
(from her blog, lillyghalichi.blogspot.com)